“You wanna know what living life to the fullest actually is? It’s waking up on a Monday morning with no complaints. It’s knowing you always deserve to laugh. It’s doing what feels right no matter what. It’s doing what you want to, no matter how stupid you look. It’s about being yourself, ‘cause no one can tell you you’re doing it wrong.”

I just saw this on Tumblr and thought it was spot on.

We all worry way too much about living up to other people’s expectations and we forget about who and what we truely are.

This year you should make it your goal to fully embrace yourself and not say sorry for who you are.


Hump Day

Even roses need shit to grow! Come on, think about it, it’s true!


I may’ve accidentally got too sucked into an episode of The Simple Life once – maybe I lost the remote control for a moment or something – but I remember hearing this old Southern guy saying about how he doubts the pair of them had even thought about the night sky and that they had probably never just sat outside and just be one with nature and watch the stars.

It makes you think about how fast this world is moving – how everything is about time.

I don’t have time.

Well actually yes you do.  You have all the time in the world, what you might not have is time management at it’s peak.

You might not be prioritising the right things.

You might be looking at others thinking they have it all when really they don’t!


And this is the thing……….you will forever be made to feel you don’t have enough, that you need to be working harder, that you need to show you are a good employee by selling your soul to your company and never seeing your family – but it’s ok you are providing for their future, but if you carry on like their future will be without you – either from early health issues or divorce if they never see you.

Life isn’t easy but today’s world puts way too much pressure and negativity onto people’s shoulders until you realise you are so weighed down by the bullshit that you can barely move.

So look, I’ve gone and brought up that word ‘shit’ again! But it is true – you have to take the rough with the smooth, you have to go through the dull times to appreciate the sparkle.  Go through struggles to appreciate the times we coast through life.  Everything seems to have a plus and a minus.

You have to remember when you look at someone enviously – that you only know what they are letting you see – you don’t really know what is going on behind closed doors – or what is going on inside their head.


You have a unique life and you shouldn’t judge it on anything other than whether you are happy with what you are doing and where your life is going and if you are not happy with it then you and only you have the power to change that.

Yes, I know – that sounds like rot when you are at the bottom looking up – the climb is too far and too hard.  You feel like you are kicked down every time and that my friend, is because you are not learning the right lessons.

We learn the best lessons through our biggest mistakes.

We appreciate the good times because we have the bad times to go through to give a contrast.

We are all unique and that should be celebrated not denied or hidden.


Life is beautiful.  You have to remember that.  Nature is beautiful – I don’t think anyone can deny that but it too has to do some things that are deemed too lovely to keep the flow going and the majority surviving.  Nothing is without its flaws – but that shouldn’t be a shameful thing.

Celebrate your flaws.  Who is to say what is normal anyway, I mean what does that word even mean!?

I look around me all the time and see the evil and destruction that money creates.

This tells me that money is not the answer.

When you go out into nature and enjoy the land that is there all the time – you feel calmer, more relaxed, there is an air of tranquillity that washes over you – that’s because we are back where we belong – we were always meant to be part of the circle of nature but for some reason humans decided they were to stand above it and watch (which of course changed the shape of the wheel and has caused, you guess it, a world of shit!)


When I see someone screeching around in a Ferrari I am not jealous – I actually almost pity the person who has to use their wealth in a way to show off to people even though it’s not cost effective to drive a Ferrari through a city – nor are you covered by insurance if you park in a city (most insurers don’t cover you anyway) and I bet no one waves you out at the traffic lights.  Is it really a smoother ride? No it’s to let everyone know you have money.  Well how sad.  I’d rather have people think I was cool or good or decent because of something I do that gives to humanity.

This world’s an ugly place……sang Blink 182 and I do agree – I think it’s ugly due to human greed, you get rid of that and the world works in beautiful harmony.  The circle turns.  So when you think of a circle it’s a loop – it goes back to the beginning and starts again.  Karma – what goes around comes around – it’s a circle again – which means things go full circle which must surely mean, then, that it all incorporates all emotions but ultimately works well and the right thing happen in the end.


We have to go through the full spectrum of emotions and I guess ultimately that is what gives us a richer life, where we can appreciate everything and have the opportunities to learn and grow which is really a major part of what life is about.

So when things don’t seem so great remember that there is normally a reason for it – lessons in it for you and that there will be much better times to come!

Words of wisdom Wednesday

‘Be kinder than is necessary.’

It seems like a good place to start for today’s (hopefully) uplifting message.  It’s ties in the book reviews of this week and is something I feel we could all do a little more and would all be happy to receive.

It’s very noticeable in London, and I think in some ways is a sign of the times, people are in such a rush, they have no time for anything or anyone, and just seem more angry…more aggressive.  I did wonder if this was just me getting older and losing my patience or tolerance for people but  I think overall the world is getting more aggressive.

We have lost the respect we have for the elderly.  We have lost the respect for customers if we work in a shop.  How many times do you are an inconvenience when you go into a shop these days and have to break up the staff chatting so you can be served?


Back in my day I would’ve been hung drawn and quartered if I served people in a shop the way so many serve today.

Ok, I accept that is a gross generalisation, but it makes a point doesn’t it!

When someone serves you how they should, or says sorry when they bump into you – it sticks with you – it is nice, it is the way it should be.

When you walk down the street with a smile instead of a scowl the world feels that little bit better.

When instead of huffing and tutting when you are held up – just accept it and use it as a moment to daydream, sort out what you need to do for the day, take a moment to read for a bit longer, whatever is holding you up – getting you angry – take a deep breath and keep smiling.

Try to live a little more peacefully, a little more calmly. 

Try to smile.  Try to be nice.  Try to be kinder than is necessary.

We all rush so much – maybe more so in the city – there is a real pressure to be fabulous at all times – to be out – to be doing something ‘amazing darling.’ Which is all fine and good and I think we all need to have a few hedonistic years behind us but don’t forget about yourself – to invest in you – to look after yourself.  We feel guilty for turning the phone off and just curling up with a movie or a book.  To not want to go out and just hang out with ourselves.  We need to be comfortable with who we are to be able to get through life, to have the confidence in ourselves to be able to go out into the big bad world.  To have the recharge needed to live at today’s pace.

Try to be kind to yourself.  Try to be kinder than is necessary.

Adopt this mantra for friends, for family, for colleagues, for the random you see on the train/bus.

If you are at school or in the work place or out for an evening – don’t be the bitch that is slagging off anyone you feel threatened by.  It doesn’t make you prettier or thinner or more butch, it just shows an ugly side to your nature.


If someone looks a little different don’t stare or laugh or be mean – take a moment to think about how that person probably feels – take a moment to think about what they have to face every day when life is tough enough.  Take a moment and be the brave one, be the strong one – strike out against the norm’ that society unwittingly creates sometimes and be the one to reach out a hand of friendship.  Be the one to be kinder than is necessary.

If you don’t like someone – rather than being a little bitch to them – maybe try to work out why – what are you threatened by? Are they too much like you? Do they express behaviour that you see in yourself that you don’t like? Are you not able to put them in a box so you feel threatened?  Maybe take the moral high ground and again offer out a hand of friendship.


It takes far less effort to be nice.  It fills your own life with happiness when you are spreading happiness rather than meanness.

When you are responsible for someone else’s smile rather than their tears that has surely got to be a good thing.

The world can be such a cruel place that we can forget how beautiful it can also be, that’s not just mother nature – that’s people too.

It’s easy to forget that humans are good.  The news, the papers, the magazines, they are all filled with rot, such depressing stories – it’s easy to get demoralised.  Everyone is feeling the pinch on their wallet – the fear of housing stability….and to be honest – just getting through the day can be tough enough.

So if you find you are not that nice sometimes – try to change that – we all have off days but a bully is something different – a child bully is not nice but an adult bully is positively ugly.


If we all looked after our nearest and dearest and looked after our little patch of earth the best we could and raised our children to be decent and kind human beans the world would be a much better place.  If we all tried just a little to be kind… be kinder… be kinder than is necessary…….we would live in a beautiful world.