“What is the key to a good life? Happiness! And how do you get that? It’s not about money and what you know – it’s about keeping your eyes open. Living in the moment. Noticing the little things. Not stressing and embracing the moment. Having faith that life is moving along as it should. Be grateful. Think about what you have and not what you don’t have. Surround yourself with good people and spread a little of your happiness everywhere you go.”
It’s story time again for you – a tea break tale or whatever you would like to call it, I hope you enjoy:
When you see a sunset do you think of the dying embers of a fire? Do you think of all the things you achieved that day or do you think about all the things you didn’t do? Do you see a sunset as final, depressing, an ending or does it fill you with joy?
I myself prefer sunsets, sunrises seem to imply something else, I can’t explain myself properly – there is something about a sunrise that seems seedy, you either can’t sleep or have been out too late, whereas a sunset is something to behold, to cherish, to make a point of seeking out and enjoying.
A sunset on a beach is one of the most beautiful things in the world to me and somewhere in the world this happens at the end of every day and it happens for free.
Those pure moments of magic, those pure moments of happiness, they are fleeting but they are often and it is those things that build up to make a happy time, or a happy life, or a happy episode.
It’s the little things in life. (How many male ego’s just soared about that one) but it’s true. The little things touch your heart and make you smile the most.
Unless you are a bitch and then this story is probably not directed at you!
When someone is mega rich and they charter a helicopter to fly you to Paris for a meal (yeah happens all the time…..) but it’s like them spending £5, does is mean as much as the person that has 50 pence to spare but picks you a bunch of wild flowers, runs you a bubble bath and does the housework for you? NO, to me the person with the 50 pence wins hands down every time. This is why I will never be living in a mansion. And I am ok with this.
I think there are purer and truer things in life than money and yep hold the front page – money is essential but it’s not that important…..well yes pick me apart on that one – you need a roof over your head and food in your belly but as for trinkets and things – they might be nice but you don’t really need them now do you. You can drown in your successes if you fall towards excess too much. If you think that the trinkets and the fast cars are the important bits you are missing out on so much more.
When did you last take the time to notice a star filled night sky or to make a wish on a shooting star? To see a dandelion seed, catch it, make a wish and then let it fly away again? When did you last take a moment to notice the beautiful flower that has come out in bloom or to notice the cute little squirrel playing on the park fence?
When did you last stop and indulge in something you love – whether it be a big slice of cake or your favourite tv show – but to really indulge and not beat yourself up about the calorie count or worry about what you might be missing out on by taking a moment to invest in yourself and to slow down a little bit and to remove yourself from the rat race just for a moment or two. That vital time of investing in yourself that we seem too quick to dismiss and not make time for or let other things leak in. Change those ways and make it part of your routine – something as essential as eating and sleeping and breathing is.
Do you ever take the time to notice the sweet things that can happen right in front of your face or that little child that helps an old person pick something up that they have dropped. The shy smile between two young lovers that are yet to admit their feelings, or the penny someone picked up to make a wish on, or the penny someone dropped so that someone else could feel lucky…………yes I did do that, I read it in a book and thought it was lovely so now and then when I have a moment or the mood takes me, or I feel that the world needs a bit more luck, I scatter my pennies! Deal with it.
Do you stop at all to think, to reflect, to notice that beauty that is all around you? Don’t ignore it – don’t forget it – happiness is not just a tiffany’s box you know!
Happiness is a hot chocolate with extra whipped cream shared with your best friend.
Happiness is that bass beat thumping through your chest when you see your favourite band live.
Happiness is being with your friends and someone produces teacups and a nice bottle of wine.
Happiness is finding £10 in your old coat that you were about to donate.
Happiness is reading a really good book, curled up on the sofa all snug and warm.
Happiness is being out in the woods with the sun trickling through the trees and hearing children playing outside, laughing.
Happiness is seeing your child in their first nativity play.
Happiness is laughing so hard that your tummy ahces.
Happiness is feeling the warm sun on your bare skin for the first time that year.
Happiness is the warm belly of a puppy dog.
Happiness is the smell of freshly baked bread.
Happiness is finding the other end of the rainbow.
Happiness is a kind word or a thoughtful deed from someone unexpected.
Happiness is being appreciated.
Happiness is a sunset marking the end of one day and biding its time for the next – each one a true gift – each one of them a fresh start if you so choose to let it be.
Let it be.
Happiness is everywhere, it is all around you, each and every day. It doesn’t have to cost a penny; it is all there if you just let it be.
This man is/was an awesome man. His name was Francis Treadgold. Earlier this year he sadly decided enough was enough and left this world for whatever adventures were in store for him next. He reminded me of Carl from Up in his looks and (a better copy) of this photo along with a little Carl figurine sit on my bookcase by my writing desk – looking over me! The lady in the picture is his lovely wife Ena. This was like their 5000 year wedding anniversary – they had been married forever – honestly…..and the look of love in her face as she sat on his knee……I will cherish that memory forever.
I miss this man every day – not nearly as much as lovely Ena does. So this week’s throwback thursday is dedicated to the memory of Francis and to the honor I have in having known him for so long. The love between these two is something you could only hope to ever find and I hope that you all do, these two are seriously little gems in this world. Two of the kindest people I have ever had the pleasure to know.
Sweet dreams Francis.
Even roses need shit to grow! Come on, think about it, it’s true!
I may’ve accidentally got too sucked into an episode of The Simple Life once – maybe I lost the remote control for a moment or something – but I remember hearing this old Southern guy saying about how he doubts the pair of them had even thought about the night sky and that they had probably never just sat outside and just be one with nature and watch the stars.
It makes you think about how fast this world is moving – how everything is about time.
I don’t have time.
Well actually yes you do. You have all the time in the world, what you might not have is time management at it’s peak.
You might not be prioritising the right things.
You might be looking at others thinking they have it all when really they don’t!
And this is the thing……….you will forever be made to feel you don’t have enough, that you need to be working harder, that you need to show you are a good employee by selling your soul to your company and never seeing your family – but it’s ok you are providing for their future, but if you carry on like their future will be without you – either from early health issues or divorce if they never see you.
Life isn’t easy but today’s world puts way too much pressure and negativity onto people’s shoulders until you realise you are so weighed down by the bullshit that you can barely move.
So look, I’ve gone and brought up that word ‘shit’ again! But it is true – you have to take the rough with the smooth, you have to go through the dull times to appreciate the sparkle. Go through struggles to appreciate the times we coast through life. Everything seems to have a plus and a minus.
You have to remember when you look at someone enviously – that you only know what they are letting you see – you don’t really know what is going on behind closed doors – or what is going on inside their head.
You have a unique life and you shouldn’t judge it on anything other than whether you are happy with what you are doing and where your life is going and if you are not happy with it then you and only you have the power to change that.
Yes, I know – that sounds like rot when you are at the bottom looking up – the climb is too far and too hard. You feel like you are kicked down every time and that my friend, is because you are not learning the right lessons.
We learn the best lessons through our biggest mistakes.
We appreciate the good times because we have the bad times to go through to give a contrast.
We are all unique and that should be celebrated not denied or hidden.
Life is beautiful. You have to remember that. Nature is beautiful – I don’t think anyone can deny that but it too has to do some things that are deemed too lovely to keep the flow going and the majority surviving. Nothing is without its flaws – but that shouldn’t be a shameful thing.
Celebrate your flaws. Who is to say what is normal anyway, I mean what does that word even mean!?
I look around me all the time and see the evil and destruction that money creates.
This tells me that money is not the answer.
When you go out into nature and enjoy the land that is there all the time – you feel calmer, more relaxed, there is an air of tranquillity that washes over you – that’s because we are back where we belong – we were always meant to be part of the circle of nature but for some reason humans decided they were to stand above it and watch (which of course changed the shape of the wheel and has caused, you guess it, a world of shit!)
When I see someone screeching around in a Ferrari I am not jealous – I actually almost pity the person who has to use their wealth in a way to show off to people even though it’s not cost effective to drive a Ferrari through a city – nor are you covered by insurance if you park in a city (most insurers don’t cover you anyway) and I bet no one waves you out at the traffic lights. Is it really a smoother ride? No it’s to let everyone know you have money. Well how sad. I’d rather have people think I was cool or good or decent because of something I do that gives to humanity.
This world’s an ugly place……sang Blink 182 and I do agree – I think it’s ugly due to human greed, you get rid of that and the world works in beautiful harmony. The circle turns. So when you think of a circle it’s a loop – it goes back to the beginning and starts again. Karma – what goes around comes around – it’s a circle again – which means things go full circle which must surely mean, then, that it all incorporates all emotions but ultimately works well and the right thing happen in the end.
We have to go through the full spectrum of emotions and I guess ultimately that is what gives us a richer life, where we can appreciate everything and have the opportunities to learn and grow which is really a major part of what life is about.
So when things don’t seem so great remember that there is normally a reason for it – lessons in it for you and that there will be much better times to come!